We fucked our way here

The truth is not clean. We didn’t climb the ladder. We collided. We merged. We survived by wanting each other enough to keep going.

We Fucked Our Way Here is not a book about sex. It’s a book about survival. About the story we were never told: that we did not become human through control, but through contact. Through desire. Through contradiction. Through saying yes when the rules said no.

This is evolutionary history rewritten from the inside out, not through sterile theory, but through emotional realism, biological truth, and cultural rebellion. Scott Pettifer tears down the myths of purity, perfection, and patriarchal progress to reveal something far older, messier, and more human.

We are not rational machines. We are erotic creatures. Hybrid by nature. Built for contradiction, intimacy, and improvisation. The longing you feel, the ache you carry, the parts of yourself you’ve been told are “too much” are memory.

This book is both manifesto and reminder: that sex was never secondary. That emotion is not weakness. That difference is not danger. And that the only way forward is the same way we came, through contact, through connection, through letting the truth of our bodies speak.

If you’ve ever felt too emotional, too chaotic, too human for this world, this is your story. Not cleaned up. Not apologised for. Just remembered.

“This book until it hit me like a freight train.”
There’s no performance here. Just raw truth. About why we’re like this, why we ache like this, and why so much of modern life feels wrong. It’s not self-help. It’s a reckoning.
Nathan L., psychotherapist

“Blew open every idea I had about sex, survival and history.”
This isn’t just a book. It’s a deconstruction of every lie we’ve inherited about race, love, logic, and evolution. I read it in one sitting, then couldn’t sleep.
Tasha R.,  student

“One of the most honest book I’ve ever read.”
It’s biological. It’s emotional. It’s political. And it’s personal. The writing doesn’t flinch. It says the things most writers are too afraid to say out loud.
David K., poet

“Its obvious when you put it like that.”
It’s like reading your own body’s memories, translated into language. Erotic, yes, but also deeply grounding. And surprisingly hopeful. Every page pulses with life.
Alina M., mother of three

“Not for the faint-hearted. But utterly essential.”
It’ll challenge you. It’ll crack you open. But it might just make you feel whole again. Like someone finally put the story of your species into words.
Leo A., educator

1. Evolution was never clean. It was contact.
We didn’t win as a species by domination or superiority; we merged, mixed, and mated across species lines. We are hybrids, not victors. The idea of a pure human lineage is a myth.

2. Desire is not a distraction. It’s data.
Our instincts, longings and attractions are not indulgences. They are the very instincts that got us here. What your body wants is not always logical, but it’s ancient. Attraction is not confusion, it’s recognition.

3. The erotic is not separate from survival; it is survival.
Touch, vulnerability, and emotional resonance were not luxuries. They were evolutionary advantages. We stayed alive not just through strength, but through softness, bonding, care and presence.

4. Shame was manufactured to control instinct.
Civilisation didn’t evolve to honour our humanity, it evolved to regulate it. Systems of religion, race, and gender were built to suppress the very instincts that made us human.

5. You are not inconsistent, you are layered.
The push-pull you feel in your body, between independence and intimacy, sensitivity and strength is not dysfunction. It’s the result of hybrid ancestry and overlapping survival strategies.

6. Neurodivergence is ancient and essential.
The misfits, the edge-watchers, the over-feelers and pattern-readers have always existed. They were never errors. They were seers, system-breakers, and future-holders. And their blood runs through you.

7. We inherit more than genes, we inherit emotional coding.
Grief, anxiety, vigilance, even your sense of joy, all of it can be passed through bloodlines. You are carrying unspoken stories in your nervous system. Some hurt. Some saved lives.

8. Healing isn’t about becoming less human. It’s about becoming more so.
The book doesn’t offer solutions. It offers remembrance. That your ache, your desire, your contradiction is not a problem to fix. It is the future rising through your skin.